© Nancy Wesson, Ph.D.
It is because some people have fear about commitment. These are some of the common fears of committing:
- Fear of losing control over one's self or one's life.
- Fear of betrayal by another person.
- Fear of being vulnerable and dependent upon one's partner or fear of a partner being dependent on you.
- Fear of losing one's financial resources.
- Fear of divorce.
- Fear of being a victim of abuse.
You should be able to answer yes to most of the statements below in order to be ready for a true commitment:
- I am ready and able to give up my identity as a single person.
- I have been emotionally stable for at least six months.
- I feel I am ready to put my relationship needs ahead of my personal needs when necessary.
- I am ready to decrease my ties to my immediate family and put this energy into my relationship.
- I am able to keep my work from interfering with my relationship.
- I feel ready to merge my life with someone else.
- I have been monogamous sexually and emotionally for at least the past six months and I am commited to staying monogamous.
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